Stigma of Early Learning

Two summer I uploaded a vlog to my YouTube account all about homeschooling babies. Apparently this was very offensive to some people as I lost a few subscribers.

You can check out the video here if you’re interested.

I’m not sure why I was shocked by this. I wasn’t offended, I know I have subscribed to channels and then realized the Youtuber was changing the direction of their channel and it no longer was something I was interested. But I see now that this is the story of Early Learning. I will never understand it.

When Wes was about 18 months old, I was sitting at work bored out of my mind. My coworkers were gone out of town on a business trip. We had just gone out of town and during that time Wes had begun to walk. After missing that milestone I decided I no longer wanted to go out of town and volunteered to stay back and man the office. Since I was a orthodontic assistant and not a receptionist, besides answering the phone and dealing with patients when they came to pay their bills there was not much for me to do. I while clicking around online, I somehow landed up stumbling across a book call “How to Teach Your Baby To Read” by Glenn Doman. I called the local bookstore and they had a copy available. I went and picked it up right after work. This opened the door to the world of Early Learning for our family.

I couldn’t get enough info. But I was shocked when I tried talk to my friends with young children about what I found, they didn’t want to hear about it. I couldn’t understand why a parent would not want to do everything possible to help their child get ahead. I was starting to understand that babies and toddlers were capable of so much. Reading, math, learning music, the sky’s the limit with these amazing little humans.

So if you are new to this whole Early Learning phenomenon, don’t let others lack of interest or disgust stop you from teaching your child. The reason other parents don’t want hear about your journey usually falls into one of these categories. 

  1. They honestly are not interested in learning. Even with mainstream parenting concepts, (like not putting your baby to be with a bottle of milk because it will cause cavities, or babies should be rear facing in their car seat till at least one, ideally two years old) are ignored by parents. I’m not saying these parents are bad parents. Just prefer to do things like they always have. So when you introduce something crazy like early learning they are just not interested.
  2. They think young children are not capable. To them this is just a simple parlour trick.
  3. They think it will steal their babies childhood away from them.
  4. It’s not their job to teach their children, it’s a schools. Or they will be bored in school.
  5. They don’t want to put in the work to organize materials or spend the money for materials.
  6. They don’t want to do the work, but are jealous that your child, whom you have been working with knows more than theirs. This one kills me because these are usually the same people that call you up when their kid starts school and are struggling. They want to know what to do, not realizing your child’s success is based on years of early learning. It’s not a quick fix or a remedial program.
  7. The are choice to spend their time and resources on other interest with their children.

 While I was in Philadelphia this past fall, in one of Glenn Doman’s recorded lectures he said something very very powerful to me. Tell them once, if they not interested, do not waste your time trying to convince them. After hearing this, I tell people what we are doing once. If they are not interested I don’t waste my time trying to convince them. Chances are you won’t. Just keep doing what you know is best for your child.

On thing I also do to screen people that ask me about the method I’m using to help my boys is recommend the book, What To Do About Your Brain Injured Child. I also recommend they watch the videos on the IAHP Youtube page. If they do this and are still interested, I know my time will be well spent sharing my experiences. However if they never do that then I know I have save my time. Also prevented myself from being frustrated.

Why is this important? Why am I being selfish?

I don’t look at it as being selfish. I am preserving my precious time. Better running our IAHP programs, making materials, regular parenting and housekeeping tasks, running my business and maintaining relationships with important friends and family, my time is very valuable. I don’t have time to spend hours on the phone sharing what we are doing, and leading them to all the right places if they are not committed.

So if someone starts slamming your program, trying to convince you that you are wasting your time, they are right. Well partially… You are wasting your time trying to convince them you are not wasting your time. Just change the subject. Don’t allow them to poison your passion.

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