Well I don’t know what it is, but when I take my son to soccer he doesn’t want to play. He just wants to sit and watch with me. If he falls, and its really not a big deal, he looks around and if I’m there he starts balling his eyes out. Today my bf told me, you just have to leave. So I left… Apparently he looked and when he didn’t see me he just started playing and focused on the game. Why am I so distracting to him? This makes me so frustrated, I’m trying so hard to get him involved in different things and yet he clams up. Unless I’m not there. Same thing happened with Wiggle Giggle and Munch. But there I have to be with him as I’m the only one who can take him. Last week he was being clingy and sucky we just left. One the way home he wanted to go back, but I was done. If I were to just drop him off and leave he would do fantastic.
Blah! I guess I shouldn’t be surprised, when I worked in a pediatric dental office, the same thing happened. If the parent was in the room, child would act up. As soon as the parent left the child was an angel(some of the time LOL)
I wish I had the magic pill. What to do? Do I just send him to soccer with his dad or hubby? I feel like I’m missing out on sharing this experience with him. Is that selfish? I mean I still have homeschooling and violin, maybe I should just let someone else use this as a bonding moment with him….
I hope you guys don’t mind the crazy amount of review/giveaways as of lately. I had planned on spacing them out better, but with the chaos of the last month, ie: finding a new daycare child, Wesley’s tutor quieting, etc, I have fallen behind.
Yesterday was officially the completion of week 2 of my no meat diet. Funny in the last 2 weeks the only place I have managed to find a yummy veggie burger (restaurant or store bought) was at Burger King. However I have managed to imitate tone of my favorite meals, taco wraps. Overall I’m not as physically exhausted, I have an easier time waking up in the morning and my moods seem to be better balanced.
Wesley is doing amazing. I’m happy with most of his progress. Like I said a few days ago I’m still trying to figure out our math situation. I’m hoping to talk to Dr.Jones and see how we can move ahead with his program. I have had my son working on Dreambox. We have 7 days left on his trail. Then I will be writing a review and my readers will have a chance to win a FREE month subscription.
I find that Wesley learns best doing a mixture of worksheets and online programs. At the moment he is doing Headsprout, Reading Eggs, Starfall, Dreambox, and IXL Math online. As for workbooks he is doing Explode the Code, The Canadian Handwriting workbook, we dabble alittle with Hooked on Phonics, we just finished Hooked on Handwriting, and we are starting Jones Geniuses Math and Reading program. We also practice reading from books almost every night. His therapy tutors are amazed with his reading skills. I’m hoping to provide him a good balance, but the kid is around so many men who LOVE video games he is drawn to that. So by providing carefully picked online computer games, I seem to be teaching him using his interests. I mean my son has ALWAYS been a techie, he was 2 years old and could operate his own CD player, 3 he could start up the computer and show grandma how to do things, at 4 he showed my best friend how to operate the camera on her Blackberry(he had never seen a Blackberry before that day). I know now a days we are suppose to protect children from all this technology, and up till he was 4 the online computer time he got was at Grandma and Grandpa’s because I did not allow him on the computer at all. But now… I guess maybe I just gave into the forces of evil? LOL well in the end he is being well educated, and at least he is not sitting in front of Mario or characters like that 24/7(well when he’s with his dad that’s a different story)
Lets hope I’m doing this child justice….
Hey Guys! I hope you don’t mind all the reviews/giveaways that have been going on. I have had the chance to review alot of products and I just want to share my finds with you 🙂
I’m not going to lie, things with Wesley’s behavior have been difficult. He has TV/Nintendo DS taken away till Friday. I have started to reading To Train Up A Child. I’ve been dieing to read it after reading a few chapters online, and I stumbled upon it at a thrift store a little while back. I know I have lacked in training Wesley to be an obedient child. I give too many warnings, empty threats and give into whining. Its not his fault he misbehaves, its mine for allowing it. Things today have been better, I’m following through and not giving second chances. I expect him to listen the first time. I have been training him to misbehave by giving him warnings, he thinks he is allowed to misbehave a couple times before having to “obey”. It has also helped me control my frustration. They helped me realize I have to stop taking his poor behavior personally. This way I can respond without emotions flooding in and compromising my judgment. Parents get so mad at there child and they say something like “Your grounded till your 18, and go to bed with no dinner.” well its 3pm. We know we can’t follow through with any of this, and at 6pm you call him down for dinner, and then a few days later he is out with his friends. What you have taught him is 1)Letting your anger control you is OK and 2)you don’t follow through. Not things I want my son to know.This book has really opened my eyes. I know a lot of parents my not agree with this style of parenting, but to me it makes sense. I love my child with all my heart, but I want him to behave so I can like and enjoy his presents too. They take a lot about having your child with you as much as possible, so you can enjoy them, give then the attention they need so they don’t have to get negative attention from you to be noticed, and that you can correct behaviors and let them know your expectations.
Now if your child is already perfect and your reading this, please don’t judge me. I’m human, I know I’m not the best parent, I lose my cool, I raise my voice, etc. But I am trying to correct this and be the best parent I can be. I just wanted to share this with you guys encase any of my readers are having the same problem… Your not alone…
Anyhow that felt good to write and get off my chest 🙂
I started a new activity with Wesley today. He is getting much better with printing and his OT wants him to start drawing. So yesterday at the grocery store I went into the school supply section, because well I love stationary LOL. Anyhow I found those scribbles with the big lines on have the page and the top half is plain. So I started the first page by writing ‘Circle” on every other line, the on the plain half drawing one circle.
Then this morning I ran upstairs and interrupted Wesley’s ABA session, and while his tutor set up her next activity I did this with him
He would write circle beside my example then he would draw a circle on the top page, when he was done writing all his trails. I gave him some crayons and let him draw colored circles. I’m hope that everyday we can get more and more complex with the picture to the point where he writes tree and after draws one big picture of a tree. But for now baby steps. LOL and maybe one day he will stay on the lines too. But overall I’m thrilled with his progress.
Have a great day!!
I’m on the beach relaxing in the sun with my cat while my bf and stepdaughter play in the water. So seeing as I don’t really like playing in the water I might as well blog lol.
This weekend I took the kids to my Memeres house for a visit. Wesley brought his board game Trouble and taught Memere how to play. But it turned into a long game and half way throught he decided he was done, as did my step daughter so they ended on a good note.
I started thinking about a few months ago when I picked Wes up from his old daycare. I walked in and there were 4 children playing Candyland. The teacher asked me if I had any suggestions how to play the game so everyone wins. Some of the children were having trouble losing. I said “No, we usually play the regular rules.”
The more I thought about it the more convinced the point of board game is to teach children, well of course skills like numbers, colors, etc also social skills. Like your not always going to win, and you have to learn to win gracefully and learn how to lose as well.
I think that just because a child hits the floor in a temper tantrum does not mean you should have to change the rules of the game. You should use this time to teach them good character. Helping them congratulate the winner.
When my son beats me at a game (sad part is this happens often lol) I say “ah man! You beat me! Good game, you really got me on that last move” Its ok to be disappointed in losing. But it’s how you handle yourself. And my examples seemed to work. He laughs when someone gets his piece in Trouble and says “oh man! You got me!” If he wins he says “I win! Good game! Want to play again?” I don’t allow gloating, and we haven’t had an issue yet.
I know some children are more compeitive then others but I mean we need to prepare our kids for the future. Now a days I’m school everyone makes the basketball team no matter what. What happened to working really hard for something? What happened to not always winning? Do you think everyone that applies for the promotion at work is going to get it? Everything we do is preparing our children for real life. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. What really defines us as who were are is how we handle ourselves when these things happen.